Apparently, only regular people discuss potty training issues with the co-parent in private. If you’re a celebrity like Kelly Rutherford, that aspect of parenting gets dueled out in a courtroom.

The Gossip Girl star and her soon-to-be ex-husband, Daniel Giersch met at LA County Superior Court today to agree on that all-important issue of how to potty train their 2-year-old son Hermes. Daniel was all for trying to teach the kid to let it out in the toilet. Kelly was dead set against it.

After several days of legal haggling, the pair finally agreed today to have their kid wear pull-ups, and allow him to make the decision on when to potty train himself.

Kelly is now getting ready for her next court battle over the couple’s new baby, who she’s set to give birth to next month.